Avenue Lifestyle: Signs He/She Won't Marry You!
Avenue Lifestyle: He/She Just wants to Be My Boyfriend/Girlfriend!
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Sometimes we plan the long-term but not everyone wants the same things or is it just with you that they don't want to get married? Start a family or take the next big step? What could be the problem? Let's unpack....
A relationship has many good qualities and some flaws that can help strengthen it or break it beyond repair or just create a toxic timeline where all you do is fight and have sxx then think you've fixed it until the next dramatic main event where you hurt each other to a point of no return. Your partner can be everything you've always wanted, someone who listens, values and is always there. You can be met with excitement on a high, squealing and feeling like you're walking on air, they bring out the best in you, you've never felt so alive or this strongly about someone before and you're certain that He/She is the one, they not only look good but they have the heart to love you. You start picturing a future without communicating one because it's easier to assume we're on the same page.
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Well sorry to burst your bubble sweetheart, sometimes the Pop isn't for popular it's for a reality cheque and yikes it comes across as a fine, you parked in the wrong spot oopsie daisy, what do we do now? Think of two passengers in the same cab, you'd think they're going together because they're having a conversation but what if the other has plans that are completely different or should we say destination? You're going to the airport, moving too fast, taking flight til you realize that you're going to crash and there's no insurance unfortunately.....never assume, ask your partner and also see their level of investment in the relationship. It's easy to commit to the now and not the future, most do this. They wanna have a temporary fix and you think you're the one they are settling for.
Like we said, you may think they're the one but what if they don't see you as the one? Then what? You went all out to make things work and the thing about that is, a relationship is team effort. If you ever go on a solo mission especially for plans that involve two people then you're jumping ahead. Communicate even if you may not like what they may say than to hold on to a lie, hoping they're gonna come around because they won't. After discovering they already know who they are going marry you feel played and wronged. Sometimes the signs are always there, we are oblivious to them or turn a classic blind eye, because we love how they make us feel but unfortunately it's one sided. They may love but not enough to fully commit, would you settle for half a heart?
If someone only wants you for a limited time. Don't think they will come around, don't blame them for knowing what they want because you'll step into victimhood and never get out or worse never move on. Everyone will know you as the guy or girl who was hurt by Charles or Sarah. They have moved on and are happy but you're still bitter and it may ruin your other relationships because they're going to get tired of the pity party and leave. It hurts to let go but you need to. Because holding on only makes it worse. Let the guy or girl go. You'll get who you deserve. Forget how handsome or beautiful your partner is or how they made you feel because there comes a time where we learn they never felt like that. Yes they can point out your good qualities and say You're just not for Me He/She doesn't want to get engaged or have kids. Being your boyfriend or girlfriend is as far as they can go, the only thing they can offer. If you want more, they tell you I'm not your guy/girl* accept it. Take your time to process and heal from it. Not grow bitter and think you're unlovable or question your worth because how can someone not want to marry you or have kids with you? Not everyone is meant for you. At times you're gonna break someone's heart or they will break yours if it's not meant to last or be. Far better than living a lie and trying to maintain it.
Some pills are bitter yet effective and in such cases, this is that bitter pill. Don't try to go on dates or look for someone prettier or more good looking than them because you'll be trying to compensate for your feelings and prove a point not really love someone but use them, never toy with anyone's emotions no matter what was done to you. Today's victim can't be tomorrow's perpetrator. So the next time you see that He/She doesn't want what you want be ready to walk away than try and change their mind because consent is important and never negotiate for love because you expect them to settle for you and they won't be happy and if the shoe was on the other foot you wouldn't feel like Cinderella meeting Prince Charming. Just keeping it real..
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