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Avenue Lifestyle: He/She Just wants to Be My Boyfriend/Girlfriend! PhotoCred: VjaPratama / Pexels Images .  Sometimes we plan the long-term but not everyone wants the same things or is it just with you that they don't want to get married? Start a family or take the next big step? What could be the problem? Let's unpack.... A relationship has many good qualities and some flaws that can help strengthen it or break it beyond repair or just create a toxic timeline where all you do is fight and have sxx then think you've fixed it until the next dramatic main event where you hurt each other to a point of no return. Your partner can be everything you've always wanted, someone who listens, values and is always there. You can be met with excitement on a high, squealing and feeling like you're walking on air, they bring out the best in you, you've never felt so alive or this strongly about someone before and you're certain that He/She is the one, they not only look go...

Avenue Lifestyle: 5 Signs He's/She's Cheating/ No Longer Interested. PhotoCred: Unsplash Images. Relationships aren't a walk in the park. They can be very beautiful or just gut wrenching. Many reasons come to play. People falling for each other for the wrong motive, different views and dreams. The clash of lovers is an everyday struggle that can make people fall apart or fall deeper in love with each other.  Well how do you know if He/She is cheating or you're just being paranoid....the signs are always there at times we turn a blind eye, try so hard to love them more hoping they'd see how committed and loving we are forgetting it's not you. It's their desires at a high and you're just the casualty.  1. They Start Overcompensating - Nothing like a guilty guy or girl who just goes all out to appreciate you and it's as if they're trying to cover their tracks while convince themselves they still love you. It's a false assurance tha...

Avenue Lifestyle: The Duty Of A Husband.... PhotoCred: Unsplash Images. The Husband. He's the head of the house, more responsibilities seem to be on him and he has to step up or be that man who is seen as "He married that poor girl just to suffer with her"  Many marriages fail when the Husband is off duty. It's not always about the Job. There are different triggers. Some have good paying jobs but are hardly home and the wife gets lonely, she feels like the job gets more attention, the mind starts wandering and the divorce conversation is brought to the table or worse!! Cheating... because when we're most vulnerable we indulge, we invite or long for comfort sometimes it leads to unfaithfulness, a shoulder to cry on is now more than that.  At times the Husband can be home but just because he's not working, he's a turn off. No matter what he does the wife finds it useless and it creates tension, unnecessary fights. Everything becomes toxic even fo...

Avenue Lifestyle: After The Weekdays   PhotoCred: Unsplash Images. Welcome to the After the Weekdays article. It's that time again where the working days are done and it's the weekend. Some have plans to go out and party, check in resorts relax and enjoy the moment. While some are worried about their electricity bills, rent is due and they feel a great pressure that is a threat to their peace and focus. Going to work with heavyweight on your shoulders and all you can think about is how you need to make more money, you're distracted and aren't at all coping with everything. You feel like you're earning peanuts and can barely afford to meet up to the standard of living.  PhotoCred: Unsplash Images. Or you're unemployed, at home. Everyone is going out and you don't want to be a leech, that friend whom they have to buy food and drinks for, pay for your movie ticket. You keep to yourself because hey you don't want to be that someone o...

Avenue Lifestyle: ManCave Monday PhotoCred: Unsplash Images The Man Are Trash And Such Trash can't be Recycled Conversation. It gets burned. Are men really Irredeemable? Let's get into this uncomfortable article. Hello Avenuers it's a Monday and we're feeling massive, shout out to all the men out there, we're rooting for you whether you're depressed, down and out we want you to know that you're special. Congratulations on being a boyfriend, brother, Father, Friend, neighbor, Boss, Leader, Pastor, Prophet, Apostle, Evangelist, Husband etc excel and be outstanding in these roles God got you and he already equipped you so you can thrive at it.  This ManCave segment is for all of you to know that being a man shouldn't feel like something you should run away from. It shouldn't feel like a social obligation where we're born monsters and everybody expects us to get it together. We go through the bleed of the blood and yes not all men have be...

Avenue Lifestyle: Do I Still Have Sex Appeal? (Cake looks and tastes good. We often want to look and feel like it. Some of us feel like we're without the icing and sprinkles) PhotoCred: Unsplash Images Happy Month Of Love everybody!!  We all have that question: Am I sexually attractive? Sometimes it's after giving birth, gaining weight, losing weight or a self esteem issue and wondering if people find us attractive or not. It's a painful phase to go through, some overcome it and some struggle with it everyday. Even the most good looking people find themselves in this space. PhotoCred: Unsplash Images Sexy to some is an outfit, a pair of shoes, a hat, lingerie, a fragrance, a kiss, a feeling...it depends on the person but we all want to feel it and at times when we look in the mirror we don't see it. Why? PhotoCred: Unsplash Images A lot of people take more than 10 pictures to get the right one because they don't feel comfortable o...

Avenue Lifestyle: Family Feuds PhotoCred: Unsplash Images Family is important. They are people we care about or just can't seem to get along with no matter the blood tie. In the lyrics of Shekinah with a twist: we're not suited for each other but that doesn't mean we can't be civil right? Extend an olive branch or is it eggnog? Custard & Jelly? Truffle? Creme brulee. Whatever it is, as long as it brings peace.  PhotoCred: Unsplash Images It's that time of the year when family members get together to celebrate the holidays and sometimes the dinner table is full of drama. Unresolved issues and a great deal of tension, all it takes is one little disagreement or a few glasses of wine or someone burning the chicken...then the bells jingle: the verbal fight kicks off... PhotoCred: Kim Burton - Pexel Images This is the result of never talking it out but just holding a grudge and having a confrontation that adds fuel to the fire but ...

Avenue Lifestyle: Morning Wood   Can He Rise To The Occasion? PhotoCred: Unsplash Images We often hear how a man should be and what's expected. While women are under a lot of pressure. Men find themselves in similar positions it can get toxic in relationships, friendships and on a professional level.  PhotoCred: Unsplash Images Some men believe having a female boss is wrong. No man should ever report to a woman, such a mindset makes them stubborn and vicious. Men are said to be intimidated by a woman who earns more than them. It's more of a power play of who should be dominant.  PhotoCred: Unsplash Images A lot of men receive power and don't know how to function in that space. They want to heard, obeyed and feel in control but they're not. They're most of the time controlled by insecurities and other external factors that mess with their reflection. Societal standards and expectations of how a man should be. A lot of times we thin...

Avenue Lifestyle: Editor's Space PhotoCred: Unsplash Images Welcome to my space and I'll giving you a bit of insight into some of my habits. I'm a workaholic so I can take it too far sometimes, I thrive in a busy chaotic environment where there's that feel good rush of doing something you love, it makes me feel challenged and excited, it's a refreshing feeling.  And yes I do take good care of myself. It's essential to be able to lead a good lifestyle that will inspire others to follow route. Whether it's a balanced diet, the content I'm exposed to on social spaces to the company I keep I ensure even if there's a bad outcome I rid of the negative energy and how do I do that? It's all in refocusing and if you can't easily let something go. Do this simple exercise, pretend the problem is in front of you, confront it without holding back and react afterwards you'll feel a massive difference, this helps you vent and rel...

Avenue Lifestyle: Men Don't...Men Do... The suffering in silence is passed down to a generation of men and it never seems to die down.  Men hardly open up. They bottle up emotions and pain til they reach breaking point all because they don't want to appear weak, they want to remain the head of the house who's unshakable 365 each year which is impossible.  Most men turn to other forms of comfort from gambling, drinking, drugs, pornography or cheating because it creates an escape if the problem is at home (within) so it's easy to go outside and get distracted with temporary pleasure than to address it in fear of being seen as a weak man who shouldn't cry or show vulnerability this leads to anger issues, toxicity...the more emotions are suppressed, the more dangerous it becomes because once the glass breaks someone is going to get a deep cut. Most partners just want a man to deliver but never tap into their partner's mental, emot...