Avenue Lifestyle: ManCave Monday

Avenue Lifestyle: ManCave Monday

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The Man Are Trash And Such Trash can't be Recycled Conversation. It gets burned. Are men really Irredeemable? Let's get into this uncomfortable article.

Hello Avenuers it's a Monday and we're feeling massive, shout out to all the men out there, we're rooting for you whether you're depressed, down and out we want you to know that you're special. Congratulations on being a boyfriend, brother, Father, Friend, neighbor, Boss, Leader, Pastor, Prophet, Apostle, Evangelist, Husband etc excel and be outstanding in these roles God got you and he already equipped you so you can thrive at it. 

This ManCave segment is for all of you to know that being a man shouldn't feel like something you should run away from. It shouldn't feel like a social obligation where we're born monsters and everybody expects us to get it together. We go through the bleed of the blood and yes not all men have been kind to women and children, to many people in different roles and spaces, men haven't been kind to themselves too. 

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It's easy to call one out and tell him to be responsible but he doesn't know what responsibility is. It's like telling a crawling baby to run. Not making excuses, many men out there are emotionally unavailable because they're taught that a man should behave a certain way and most expect to be loved but they give love by being toxic. They think they just need to get a job, act strong and numb to pain, struggles then they're done..the emotional aspect is abandoned because it showcases weakness, men without empathy are broken people who find it hard to show affection and be vulnerable or allow themselves to be loved.  In a time where men are trash and women expect us to do better, we as men need to be healthy around each other. Our man up or get together conversations are always degrading or misleading..most guys get together to encourage cheating and call each other names "Bro that woman wants you, do you see your girlfriend anywhere? I'm not planning on telling her, go chow, you only live once" most women feel alarmed when a group of guys stare, they feel like they're undressing her or will say something seductive or get touchy touchy. We're seen as hunters, always ready to strike. The providers who are supposed to be protective and soft yet when men showcase a softer tone it's seen as weak and pathetic, they need to man up. This conflicts the man and he doesn't know how to function as a man. He does this, it's wrong, he does that it's wrong..

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We need to draw back and be more encouraging. Most men need therapy they've taken many blows and hold them in, never talk about them. Some walk around with so much anger, bitterness and wrecked energy that they don't see the need to be kind when everyone has been cruel. A jerk isn't born, a gentlemen is also created by spaces that are either toxic or healthy. Some can be in toxic environments and be healthy. Some in healthy environments and be toxic. 

But we should never make people feel irredeemable..I'm not condoning anything some men have done from abuse, rape, murder and every other wicked thing but society also contributes a setback instead of progression. Cancel culture also doesn't help because we cancel people instead of try to offer them help to be better. It's easy to declare someone guilty and throw them in jail but it's another thing to sit them down and find out why they did what they did..it's better to know what caused the storm than create measures to overcome the storm because more and more storms keep coming yet we don't know what is triggering them.. there's always an influence, a teacher somewhere out there. 

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A boy can be raised in a home where the father asked a question while getting violent with the child, he grows up thinking tough love is the way to go. No one is born a murderer and honestly our flaws may be a fall we encounter but that shouldn't be the end. Look at God who came in human form to save mankind, a people who were doomed yet he stepped in. God is always ready to welcome us but are we as people ready to help and drag down? Can we help others be better and not just want to throw away the key and lock them up? Many people are in prison while innocent, some are getting drunk because it's the only way to get through. Everytime they want to reach out they get dismissed. 

So how do we help each other? How do we move forward? Are you supposed to make peace with the man who raped, killed, tormented your daughter? Your son? Are you supposed to forgive the person who abused you everyday but claimed to love you? The same person who tormented you? As hard as it may be..YES. if we return hate with hate, love ends up lost. It's better to forgive than old on to the pain, live with it, cry every night. Never move on and always talk about how you got hurt. You'll go around in circles and not live. You won't give anyone a chance to love you or be around you based on traumatic experiences.

So please help your brothers, husbands, uncles, friends etc be better. Support and love help people to do well. When you're in a negative and unhealthy environment you become discouraged, unhappy, demotivated. You'll have no reason or desire to be a joy to others. I'm not saying let people get away with their misdeeds, no!! When we are guilty it's good to be called to justice but it's how you execute the justice... irredeemable or reformation. Men out there, be accountable, be aware, always alert of your actions. Always ak for consent. Create safe spaces for yourself and others. It starts with one person, that's how something spreads so it better be empowering, supportive and building not tearing, destructive or threatening. 

No to Harassment.

No to Abuse

No to Unnecessary Manly Pressure

No to putting pressure on your woman.

No to unhealthy spaces.

No to Men are the same..

No to anything that violates, hurts and degrades.

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