Avenue Lifestyle: My First Heartbreak

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When God breaks your heart for your own good! 

The picture shows a sweet treat and we thought that was our end all be all, yet it fell apart because God had something better, His Goodness. As the scriptures reads - Psalms 34:8 NIV

[8] Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.

Sometimes the heart isn't as strong as we'd like it to be. We often try to play the part of the quickly healed guy or girl so we don't look weak. Many people fake it, act like they are living their best lives while it's a means of masking, not even Bruce Wayne can save the day from this. 

We're raised to never show weakness and always be showing our best yet it kills us in the long run. Many people fall apart trying to stand straight like a drunk man attempting to convince the police officer he's sober. I had to learn very quickly that bottling things up was only going to turn me into a weapon, the things we keep inside tend to be part of us or they manifest, we end up hurting people. Shouting, snapping and pushing those whom we love. 

When we're heartbroken we think the best solution is to throw it under the rug and carry on like it never happened and that's where the problem starts, what you never deal with, will always have power over you, you gave it room to grow and just because you're scared of the outcome of confrontation doesn't mean you shouldn't. My first heartbreak wasn't from a romantic relationship. It was things not going my way, I thought it was sabotage from the enemy I didn't understand why even though i had good intentions everything seemed to fall apart, I would set up defences, plan accordingly and be committed yet it would go nowhere eventually I got frustrated and disappointed...my heart was shattered and boy that was God just letting me experience His ways, everything I went through was no coincidence. God had plans for me as in Jeremiah 29:11 a path meant for me. 

I asked why do I have this talent yet when I use it, it doesn't bear any fruit? I was beyond frustrated and sometimes we are in the wilderness, refined and being established as a God led son or daughter. Intense crushing/suffering that we see it as the end of us. In this season we try to grow things and they die, wither right before our eyes. It's our season of growth and development anything else will fail. Relationships suddenly fall apart or you find yourself completely isolated because God wants you to grow without any interruptions. 

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As seen on the picture, sometimes we have to give up the things we highly prioritised before we came into this new Life in Christ. Matthew 13:45-46 NIV

[45] “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. [46] When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. - Verse link

 

There's a good kind of Heartbreak. Where we learn God's will over our own ways. Where God says no not because he doesn't want us to be happy but He has something far more better, it exceeds expectations. God sets the time and place. We can try to get out of a situation. Lazarus couldn't willfully bring himself back to life, God knew that He'd rise again. Many brutal beatings and heartbreaks happen to us unexpectedly. They feel like a nasty surprise. A plot twist to the story....

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Being dead to self and also losing the world may seem like a heavy blow yet we gain so much in Christ, in our union with Him. We have to put to death the former self and embrace Godliness. 

The usual monologue "I believed this was my time to be happy, everything looked so promising and then.....it hit me, my world fell apart" yeah, it had to so God may be your everything. Everything else based on our own desires and ideas, concepts of creation....can steer us in another direction and God draws us back in. Our glass gets shattered and God replaces it with one that Glorifies Him. One that's unbreakable. It withstands anything. Whatever the devil breaks, steals, kills or destroys God restores, revives, replaces with something even better. So cheer up some heartbreaks aren't to leave you messed up and forever hurting. They're a setup to a miracle to Life changing. God has a purpose for the things we go through. 

I had to surrender and embrace His ways. God is Good and He heals the broken hearted. What is from God won't kill you. Sometimes buildings get demolished so a better one may be built. (Isaiah 60) Look at how the best material will be used. 

Don't look at your scars, the series of events that made you feel inferior, ugly, unlovable hold you back, even though it was heartbreaking...you're stronger, wiser, a strength to others and God oriented. For His Kingdom. A People that He adores. A part of you are. 

What's Your First Heartbreak?

Do tell us. Remember we are overcomers through Christ. 

Thank You for Joining Us 

Until Next Time.

Avenue Lifestyle.