Avenue Lifestyle: 5 Signs You're Still Hurting

Avenue Lifestyle: 5 Signs You Haven't Healed. 

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There are people who live with wounds that they keep fresh and burning so they sting away the incoming joy and there's no progression. Some aren't aware and some are, it all depends on the view, the feelings, effect and turn of events from relationships, miscarriages, betrayal, loss. The list is endless and many find themselves playing the song of severe sadness, they sound like a broken record and push people away even any opportunity because no one wants round 2. Painting everything by a guilty color. 

1. You Always Bring It Up - Yup, that's the first sign. Talking about how your ex, your boss, your parents or whoever hurt you. You're not speaking about it from a good perspective but from a "I'm not okay, they really did this to me, how could they?" It's a back and forth in your mind, you process it unable to comprehend it. It's also accompanied by negative emotions that lead to outbursts, throwing tantrums and hands. Don't let nobody get those hands unless it's a handshake.

2. Isolation - 

You'd rather be alone that go through that again. You aren't trusting of people and certain places that you feel you're better off by yourself but what you're really doing is holding yourself back from experiencing something new in life. You allow the past to have a say in your present and dictate your every move. Living in caution is good but not like this. You see a red flag in everything, everyone. No man is an island. Remember that.

3. Final Conclusion -

What happened to you is like a final conclusion. You feel like your fate has been sealed by one event. You'll never be the same person ever again and you're done for. So you close yourself and torture yourself with self pity, victim blaming and regret. One bad break up, one tragic loss doesn't mean you'll never be happy again. Learn to let go.

4. Dismissive -

Anything coming your way you block and shut out. No matter how promising things may be you can't help but feel like there's a plot twist in the works, things are too good to be true. So you deny yourself a chance at starting afresh but prefer to live in the wounds and hurt because it's safer there for some reason, someone put you there but how is crying every night, screaming and agony good for you? Have you settled where you're supposed to pass? Pack your bags honey, dry your tears, there's a Bus station, Airport, Cab waiting for you and your next Destination is definitely Joy.

5. Controlled - 

Most are controlled by negative emotions. Which flood in and cripple your focus. It becomes hard to socialize because you're so angry. The events left you so broken you don't believe anyone is capable of loving you. You can't even forgive yourself, yes they warned you about him/her about that job, that decision but you did it anyway but don't be controlled by your feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, humiliation and so on. Allow yourself to forgive, Love, be at peace and heal only then will you see how that was a moment which led to a process of pain but now it's time for you to end that monthly, weekly, daily, hourly subscription. Deactivate that pity account and Sign for one that is all about Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Humility, Kindness. Faith people call it Fruits of the spirit. AMEN to that. YES LORD. 

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Are you ready to heal and move past everything? It's not going to be easy. Nothing is...think of having to make dinner, take care of the kids, do your job, get a job. Maintain a healthy relationship. It all needs commitment, consistency, willingness and the heart for it. Take a step to function in Love. It starts with admitting you're not okay and allowing yourself to heal. Learn to let go. There are many methods such as Therapy. Prayer. Meditation & Affirmations.

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