Avenue Lifestyle: 5 Steps To Starting Afresh

Avenue Lifestyle: 5 Steps to Starting Afresh

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Starting Afresh isn't easy, it's the hardest thing to do because we constantly wanna look back and reminisce about how happy or hurt we are. The past keeps replaying and we're stuck on repeat that's when we have to stop with the reruns and reboot or start a new show or maybe a sequel?

How do you know you need a fresh new start? Well obviously if you're having attachment issues. You lost your job but instead of looking for something new you just cry about the loss and how it feels unfair. It's not easy to pick yourself up but it has to be done anyway. I've had moments where I needed to start on a clean slate and that meant letting go of certain things and habits which were not good for me. Change is scary and it feels like you're gonna fail because you're not in your comfort zone so you'd rather hold on to the past as an unhealthy restrictive coping mechanism that just makes things worse. There's nothing wrong with shedding tears and feeling down but don't say down, get back up and that's where we come in. 

 1. Allow yourself to Grow - Growth sometimes means moving on. If you don't move you'll remain stuck, movement is good because you're going to another level but we must also be aware that moving without a clear direction is dangerous. Move forward not backwards. Trees grow up. We grow up. So allow yourself to experience new things and people. It opens you up for challenges, opportunities and discoveries.

 2. Acceptance - Starting Afresh needs you to come to terms that a new chapter is starting and you have to embrace it. Acknowledge it and live it. Being in denial only holds you back and stalling aka procrastination is something we should all run from. The comfort of the past and the creation of the present are important, you have to be present to create. So accept and start moving forward.

 3. Reflect - Sometimes clarity is needed before we take the next step forward. Assurance and a good "I may not have all the answers but that was amazing or bad but I can't wait for what's coming next" whatever you had or were part of, reflect on the effect and impact it had on you. Whether good or bad it helps you improve or seek caution in the future. You learned something and that's not really a loss.. Unless you lost a loved one and you'd have to let them go because holding on to the loss brings no peace. 

 4. Assurance - We all need assurance before we step into unknown territory known as a new beginning but we won't always have it for everything looks risky, there's the fear of guarantee but self assurance is important as a simple "We can do this" "Everything is gonna be okay" goes a long way. Daily positive affirmations make it possible for you to go into something with cheer. So you go ahead and do that..

 5. Goodbye - No you don't have to be Sam Smith and be good at goodbyes but for you to move on you have to say it and mean it so you don't revisit the past and let go completely. Rehabilitation requires a disconnect from bad habits so a goodbye helps you come to terms and you're able to move forward unless you don't mean it. Goodbyes won't always be easy but if you lost a job and always hope to get it back or wonder who's your replacement you miss out on new opportunities and openings ready for you to enter and experience them. So go ahead and say those farewells where necessary.

When we close a chapter another opens as the saying goes..

Don't be afraid to start because you did it when you started that previous job, relationship, friendship and habits. It started then ended and it gives you a chance to start again. Remember not to expect the same turn out as you'll start a negative thinking pattern that may mess up, self sabotage isn't good for you. Instead go into something with optimism. 

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