Avenue Lifestyle: Porn For Me. Porn For Us?

Avenue Lifestyle: Pornography In Relationships & One's Lifestyle.

This week on The AL, we're diving into pornography and relationships. The power and impact they have on us individuality and as a couple. Let's get to it.

While it may make room for couples to explore and thrive in the bedroom it can set unrealistic expectations and ruin a lot of things. The pleasure seen can't always be imitated. You try to please your partner in bed by imagining yourself as that pornstar and it sets you up for failure, what's wrong with you? Why not be you? 

And as much it may stimulate, as a couple you wouldn't want to rely on it that without some explicit inspiration there's no steam to blow, that's a whole yikes. Two people must get it on in order for you to heat things up? What happened to that connection you had? External devices won't always be there you know...

Pornographic content is harmful because it has you on a rush and 2 minutes later you're done. All the guys jerking off know very well, so being exposed to this content can lead to early ejaculation when someone wanted to last longer and EMERGENCY!! SEX LIFE CRISIS is a thing. A lot of men end up trying creams, pills and concoctions to last longer when they can cut out the porn because it always quickens things, instant noodles anyone? Instant porridge? Women are always complaining about how their men are struggling to satisfy them. They note that most guys are focused on their own pleasure, it becomes one sided, once he's done, the show is over and she's left in the middle of nowhere until next time, a relationship is team work and so is intimacy, it's an act of together we go from here to there and the best way to accomplish this is communication, what pleases the both of you, how do you prefer it? How do you wanna explore? What are you open to? And if you wanna include the pornography what happens if your partner now wants to explore? The threesomes? Trying it with other people because it creates a curiosity of desire, a craving of excitement. "If you can't do it with Me, can I at least be given the chance to explore with others since you're not into bondage?" Can anyone hear the relationship flatlining?

As much as pornography may help people explore it can also bring about insecurities from ones size, you start these unnecessary comparisons "What if she likes guys with a bigger cucumber?" "He's always checking out big booty Huns and I'm worried, I feel like I'm not enough" both of you wanted something new but it also opened a can of worms. It doesn't always turn out bad as some couples end up finding their footing and they stick to it until it's time for some research on something fresh for them. 

Individuals have a hard time disconnecting from it because they feel a great attachment. Old habits die hard, you don't outgrow things in a day with a decision. Just like how you don't get pregnant and immediately give birth, process takes place. Been there done that, had my own struggles and even know what kind of porn I preferred but it all came down to the impact and how helpful is this, is it kicking off an addiction? Am I maintaining this while suffering a lot of shame? Not everyone can go on record and say they've watched porn or do. I honestly cut it off. Didn't have to block certain sites and when I did, some times I'd relapse unexpectedly and instead of being harsh on myself I kept pushing until I felt so disconnected not even not even for a day did I feel the attachment. The impact it had on Me set me up for a lot of curiosity and harm. 

They say take everything in moderation. Don't go overboard. Well the impact for me hasn't been good so I'd recommend cutting it off your sexual diet. If overly consumed it'll consume you and all you'll ever attend is porn. Can't wait to get home and get it on, trust me Marvin Gaye at that time would've left the chat..

What are your thoughts? Does it set desirable, achievable and healthy expectations or a healthy sex life or have you found yourself trapped and want out? Let's talk. Join in the conversation.

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