Avenue Lifestyle: Size & Performance

Avenue Lifestyle: Size & Performance. 

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A lot of men are under massive pressure in the bedroom. They always wanna impress and be lasting but how can one truly deliver a memorable performance if they set themselves up for failure?

Firstly the wrong mindset makes it even more dangerous when you feel like you need a bigger cucumber to be able to get the job done. Social Media has become a space for toxic and degrading conversations about how men have tiny penises and this adds up to the insecurity, next thing you know your partner wants to do it in the dark so you don't notice a thing. 

Or they keep stalling everytime you guys have to go to electric city. Because he's worried about your view, he's using a reference from a conversation, a post where his size was seen as a joke in a man. So he doesn't want to end up on a thread on the social streets as the latest victim of mockery. Size doesn't really matter when you know how to drive. A wise woman once sang "He might got the biggest car but he can't drive me wild or he can go for miles" Jade on Love Me Like You by Little Mix.

While men with bigger sizes are complimented and celebrated, it boosts their confidence and makes them feel validated but it's all in the performance. Look at how big a piano is compared to a cymbal and it's all in how you play it so well. Plus sexual intercourse isn't a one sided thing where the man does all the work and the partner just takes in the pleasure. It's a two-way street. Team effort. It needs two people to talk and know what they like and how they like it. 

I've at certain points in my life looked at my size and wondered if it's big enough? Only because of online conversations but I stepped away from that and just loved how I was built than to worry myself into panic of approval and expectations in the bedroom. One little insecurity can ruin a great performance. For example if someone has a wine stain on their dress, especially if they are the hostess they will focus on the stain instead of the task at hand, being distracted, worried is an indirect sabotage of the overall delivery. Men anonymously confess about this and usually people always have negative responses with a comical tone but it goes to show many want to be in relationships and be sexually active but because of one insecurity they can't step in. The psychological aspect of a mental mind game that plays on in the head with negative outcomes that makes them feel disqualified and live in fear of rejection. 

So if you're a guy and are worried about size don't be. You don't have to buy creams to enlarge or something. It's always in the performance not the size. Step out of the negative thought pattern that cripples you. Embrace yourself enough inspire change no matter who says what so that people in your shoes won't feel like less. It starts with you. It won't be easy but step out of the stereotype and false description. 

Talk to a brother and empower them. A man isn't graded according to size. Never feel like you're not enough. Life is special because a lot of things come in different sizes and there's something for everyone even if you got rejected, someone is waiting on you but first be confident in your own body. 

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